Do Your Friends Hate Your Boyfriend?

?If your friends hate your boyfriend, you are not alone. Many good friends have found their friendships strained when a new boyfriend enters the picture. Since it is such a common occurrence, it is a good idea to have a plan of action ready that you can implement if your friends hate your boyfriend.

While you might be inclined to dismiss the concerns of your friends as pure jealousy, you should still carefully consider their opinions. Sometimes your friends may actually see bad qualities in your boyfriend that you have overlooked. Ask them to tell you why they hate him. Encourage them to be honest, and promise that you will not take their criticism personally or get angry. Comments about his hair, attractiveness, outfits or the car he drives should be immediately forgotten. However, if your friends point out a problem with drinking, smoking, abusive behavior or disrespectful language, then you should pay close attention. Your friends can often see things that your feelings have made you ignore.

What if you have thoughtfully listened to the reasons why your friends hate your boyfriend and determined that their feelings are unwarranted? You have to realize that you cannot control your friends' actions, only your own. Make sure your friends know that they are still special to you and that you will not forget them just because you are in a new relationship. Continue to spend quality time with your friends even if it means budgeting your free time between them and your boyfriend. Avoid group activities that would bring your friends into contact with your boyfriend. You do not need the responsibility of playing referee. You should also avoid venting to your friends about every little disagreement you have with your boyfriend. Complaining could only make them more bitter toward him.